I grew up In Tasmania, 20 years I lived there for and always imagined I’d have a family, settle down and stay there.
How life changes! I ended up moving away when I was 20, homesick from my family who had moved to SA. Life continued I had met a guy back in Tasmania before I left and we started dating, never even contemplated the long distance thing.. If it worked it worked. And it did he followed over and ended up living with us, soon we were engaged and planning a wedding.. We didn’t wait long, people say when you know you know but I say if you want it you’ll make it work. (A whole new story) We’ve had our days, but weather we had been dating for 6 years or 6 months it’s not going to matter really we all have our moments.
We ended up going back to Tasmania for our wedding, went to Qld for our honeymoon and settled back into the South Australian life. We fell in love with a few places in Qld and dreamt of one day living there, fast forward a couple years with a child on my hip we moved up.
We Took a month to drive up to Qld from Sa and stopped to set up the tent as we needed… We were basically homeless for quite awhile, stayed in a few different places and worked… It’s funny because we always said if we had time and money we could keep on going and do the big lap. Fast forward again this September it will be two years since being here and we now have a child each attatched to our hip. We love the lifestyle and culture there’s always places to see and go… And as much as we love it here we also have dreams and goals for the year ahead and future. People assume that because you have kids your ready to settle, yes in a way you have to settle but what does ‘to settle’ look like? It can be differant for many.
I never had any of these dreams, I grew up in the one place and thought that’s where I’d stay but boy if your willing life can take you on some adventures.
See the thing is for some people they stay in one place all there life and are happy, for others they contemplate dreams of travelling or moving to the other side of the world, some do it and some are too scared having to ask ten different people what they think and wait for the ‘right moment.’ some contemplate a career change but could be put off with the thought of it not working out. Others contemplate having children but are worried because they only just got married.. “What will people think? It’s probably not the right moment.”
Life never has any right moments.. You take the leap or leave it. When I was pregnant with my first someone once asked me if we were ready because to our delight she was a suprise… I didn’t have an answer and then one day a friend at the time said to me “Jess you will never be ready, you will never have enough money, energy etc for a child, you may never feel as though your ready to be parents because nothing can really prepare you.”
It’s the same as life really. You don’t know what’s around the corner and as the cliche saying goes make the most of life because you only have one.
I don’t know what your contemplating, a career change? A move to the next city? Another child? Your dreaming of travelling? Getting married?
Don’t wait for the right moment, don’t wait for the OK from your friends or family don’t wait for there approval. If you have a dream get up and live it or at least attempt it.
We’re here one day and gone the next. I challenge you whatever your facing as a single, as a couple or a family don’t let other people rule your thoughts. As they say
sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey, they don’t need too it’s not for them.
Wherever you go someone will have an opinion, were all filled with them, I have an opinion about my neighbours and the car they drive but to them there not going to care , there like 20 something living there life obviously loving there car maybe because it plays doof doof music I don’t know but should it matter to me?
The other day at the park my 2.5 year old daughter decided she would climb the ropes, too the top I may add, she’s never done it before but she just got up and did it, didn’t question it that morning when she woke because she didn’t even know we were going to the park.
The next day she attempted the rock climbing wall, she’s never done that one before either but she did it.
I guess unlike adults children just get up and do things in the moment weather they Fail or fall.